…that, despite the fact that I am only 7 months pregnant and have had a relatively ‘easy’ pregnancy (people tell me that when I say I didn’t throw up a lot – I could count on my hand the number of times I did),
the physical discomfort of pregnancy does not come anywhere close to the physical discomfort of sub/infertility and getting your period every month. And I’m just talking about the physical side of things. If we threw in emotional discomfort, well, that wouldn’t even be a contest now would it? But we all knew that already.
But just in case you had some inkling way back in there (like I did) that maybe pregnant women complain so much because physically it really is that bad. Its not. At least, its possible for it to not be!
(edited to say, this pregnancy has not been symptom free. I’m just recognizing these symptoms aren’t that big of a deal and at least for me, aren’t painful enough to act as if they compare to the physical pain of not being pregnant. And, I’d venture to say that that’s before any treatment, although maybe all the pain of treatment makes it that much more obvious. Even with the mind fog, constant tiredness that has you going to be before 9 every night, constant hunger-if-i-don’t-eat-every-hour-I’ll-be-nauseous feeling, side-hip nerve pinch that wakes you up at night and makes you walk with a limp, constant peeing and nasal drip, braxton-hicks contractions, and some other weird pains down there I won’t talk further about, in my experience pregnancy is physically easier than not being pregnant. Pregnant women talk about these things because everyone is always asking you “HOW DO YOU FEEL?” So you tend to analyze every twinge :) )
It is beyond amazing not having cramps every month. I told Mike the other day that I’m pretty sure not having cramps for 9 months would totally add up to labor in terms of physical pain. Moms everywhere are probably laughing at me right now, but I think it could be close. I guess I’ll know for sure in two months :) And then I may eat my words.
That being said…I have a few random points about this pregnancy I’d like to share:
- Round ligament pain feels exactly like the pain I had ovulating every month. So much so that early on (probably before 16 weeks pregnant) I actually had our doctor use the ultrasound to look to see if I was ovulating or had huge cysts or something because I had the exact same pain as I did or what I thought was ovulation pain while we were trying! (and before, for the record). After confirming I was not freak ovulating while pregnant (ahem) she told me she was 99% sure it was round ligament pain. She said the same high levels of hormones can make those tendons hurt during ovulation as well! So interesting. Which explains why the two times I was *sure* that it was lefty ovulating, we confirmed by ultrasound that righty was doing all the hard work. And I was so confused. Turns out that was never ovulation at all but tender ligaments. (And silly me, why I thought I was a frequent multiple ovulator! Twins do run in my family, but I am not the fertile one!) Mystery pain finally solved! Turns out I’ve just always had round ligament pain.
- At a certain point in pregnancy, it appears that your posterior becomes resistant to progesterone shots. We are running out of spaces that aren’t bruised to shoot into, no matter how slow he injects (last night’s took 5 minutes!). Just kidding! Luckily the booty is jealous of my growing stomach and has been matching her pound for pound, so we have plenty more surface area :)
- I am convinced that handling these shots will only help us during labor because they mimic having to relax during contractions. Has anyone else found this to be true?
- I did the blood draw after taking a suppository last week (also known as, a useless blood draw and a waste of money) but I didn’t know that at the time. Well, my level was 95 and the nurses still weren’t going to change my dosage, even thinking that was a real number (which it wasn’t, as I was later informed). That being said, being 32 weeks means only 4 more weeks of shots! Hallelujah!
- People stop making eye contact with me. They just look at the belly. Especially at work. Its really weird sometimes because I’ll see myself and think, Wow. I am a pregnant woman. And though I have known this for a while, now I look like one to everyone else. And that’s all some people see. I know because I that’s what I thought at times.
- Researching cloth diapering has become my favorite pastime. Like, to the extent that its an obsession. Mike couldn’t figure it out. I couldn’t figure it out. Why was I so enthralled by cloth diapering? (well, despite the obvious, them being cute, me being an engineer and loving to solve/optimize problems). I think I finally came up with it. Entering the cloth diapering world is my entrance into motherhood. I haven’t bought many things for our baby. But before we were married, I decided I wanted to cloth diaper our babies. I was so excited about it, I thought, well, as long as I don’t have a baby, why don’t I cloth diaper myself? So I did. And I have been ever since (If you’re confused by that statement, see this link). But I have never cloth diapered a baby, as was my original goal. And for a while anytime anyone would post or talk about cloth diapering I would have such a strong reaction…like that was my idea! I was supposed to do that with our baby! Beyond reasonable but that’s how it manifested itself. And now here I am…or I will about to be as soon as our baby decides to come out. And its a big moment for me! A realization that for just this one way that I wanted to mother, I will finally be able to! And that means I’m really becoming a mother. Hence the cloth diapering overboard. Its all profusely gushing out in the only way it can right now. That being said, I’m seriously done until this baby gets here because cloth diapering itself can really not be that cool, can it?
- (I said that last week).
I think I had more. But I forgot it all. That statement comes out of my mouth way too often now.
- Ok, I remembered one more! When I realized I was peeing pretty much constantly at work, I started a game to see if I could use all the stalls in our bathroom over the course of a day (there are 8). Then I could make a game out of peeing (clearly I’m in need of a little entertainment at work!). I’d start with the first stall and see if I could make it to the end by the end of the day. Oh how it would throw me off when someone would be in stall #3 when stall #3 was next on my list! So sometimes I had to make modifications. I thought it would take me a while, maybe by the 8th or 9th month, but I’m happy to report that I’ve done it several times at this point! Probably like 3 or 4. Good times. Now I need another game to keep me entertained…