I know some of you have sought spiritual direction (at least from what I’ve read on your blogs) for dealing with the cross of sub/infertility. I’ve enjoyed reading what you’ve written and gleaning insight into my own life. I also appreciate your answers to what has helped you “get over yourself” – like serving others and dancing! ha! My husband sent me this video today unrelated to fertility, about the cross of being homosexual and Catholic. I really do feel like anyone who’s not Catholic should watch this to better understand exactly how Catholic’s view this issue. While I was watching it, I couldn’t help but realize how beautiful our faith is and how this idea of “victim souls” is a tiny comfort during the journey with a heavy cross.
Now, I don’t want to compare the cross of homosexuality to infertility (because I think it must be a much, much heavier cross to be homosexual – especially in our society today) but I did find it interesting look at the comparison of sub/infertiles being victim souls to a certain extent.
Yes, all people endure suffering and every person handles suffering differently based on our uniqueness as human beings, so its impossible to compare and no one can have a monopoly on suffering. One positive is that all suffering, so matter how small, has the potential to bring souls to Christ (such as the pregnant women out there offering the pains of their labor up for the infertile). However, I do believe there is something unique in the suffering that is not common and goes against societal norms. Homosexuality and infertility are two examples of those crosses that go against what is accepted in our society these days (the recent eruption of comments on Sew’s post about abortion and IVF is proof that those of us not “OK” with IVF and sub/infertile suffer separately, some might say “needlessly”). Of course its not an exact parallel, because fertility is over the whole life so there’s always some hope there of being “cured” so maybe we won’t know if we’re victim souls or not until the end of our life, but I feel like embracing the idea of being a victim soul and suffering for Christ is pretty helpful in “getting over myself”, at least a little bit.
Anyway, I do encourage you to watch this video! Let me know what you think!