So, remember the other week when I posted about being so excited to have a complete family reunion this weekend? Well, it will still be going on, just not with us. The husband has been out of commission this whole week and I just found out this morning that its 99% chance its the swine flu (I hope you don’t get it Natalie!). So with his super high fever we’re stuck at home and I’ll have to be a little more patient until I get to see my family again :( Say a little pray for his recovery and for my health, can you?
Although I’m bummed he has the swine flu (it looks pretty painful), I am a little happy that it has nothing to do with that maybe-undercooked salmon that I prepared for our anniversary or the fact that he was slaving away painting our living room all day Monday…
I don’t really enjoy commenting on political things. I think on the blog-o-sphere there can be a little too much “over-valuing of our opinion” (as Jen discovered in #7) and particularly with political issues, its never about what we should do, but about smearing another person and what we shouldn’t do. I find this lacks practicality and just makes people really angry and bitter. As a means of communication, blogging can be useful, but it lacks any real way to engage in conversation and can sometimes stifle any potentially useful dialogue that may have happened because people get too offended.
[Then why blog about controversial stuff at all? I talk about my faith because I guess I see that as a non-negotiable. If I can't be open about myself in a non-judgmental way, since it is such a big part of me, I see it as not being true to myself. I always have a litmus test too, like "Would I talk about this with people? Then gee, I probably shouldn't blog about it."]
That being said, here’s my big caveat. A lot of what I learned at my marriage conference would probably upset a lot of people, a lot of those people being my good friends. That’s been part of my hesitance in writing about it even though I said I would (that, and I really have been super busy). How do I value my opinion without ostracizing people? What’s the most effective way to talk about these issues?
I should probably use a whole post for this, but as a slight tangent, there’s something about this that makes me a little upset. Ok, more than a little. Mostly because I think of all the people that voted for Obama thinking that “Oh, maybe he’s telling the truth when he says that he’s for marriage being between a man and a woman”. I just don’t understand how he can continue to say one thing and still do everything that is completely against these beliefs. For some reason this issue seems so much more underhanded than just saying you won’t raise taxes and then eventually raising them anyway.
Since I already talked about this one with my husband, I think its safe to post about too :) I found this “teen feminist blog” (please don’t judge me) and was perusing through the blogs for some of the issues that “teen feminists” would be concerned about and I found this entry in a “Dear Abby” format. Check out this girl’s question:
I’m sure this has crossed many young feminists minds… How are we supposed to date men (specifically), when in the back of our minds we have that caution tape? We are so aware of the crimes men have caused to our gender, so aware of how men think and treat females, how can we possibly not only begin to perhaps tell them not only that we are feminists but to see if they are those sexist pricks we have been fighting for so long?
I find it so incredibly hard just to talk to other women who are completely ignorant about feminism and the idealogy of it, I don’t even want to try to pursue relationships anymore. I don’t know how to gently lay out my cause or even a sneakier way–how to test a guy. This may just be basic courting skills, but my mother never taught me how to test a guy for closeted sexism or male supremacy. I want to know if any of you younger feminists have a theory on how to address this and if it worked.
Is it bad that I laughed after reading this? I think this is the biggest problem with “traditional” feminist ideology, what are you gonna do with all these men around you?
What would you say to this girl?
I don’t know what to do with my free weekend. Its been so long since I’ve had one.
I went to my friend’s defense party this week (I was lame and couldn’t make the actual defense :( ) and I have to say, its inVIGORATING to know that people actually get out of this place with the title “Dr.”! I need to keep going to those every so often just to help with the motivation. That, and I enjoyed the free food :)
Seattle is beautiful. I could have stayed there a few more days. Went to a wedding, the husband gave a great toast, did the Underground Tour, went to the original Starbucks, Pike’s Market, Space Needle, AND on our flight home we passed THISCLOSE to Mt. Rainer. It was crazy. The pilot said that never happens.
What should we do next time?
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